Will you marry me, please? Marriage Proposal Guide

When it comes to romantic gestures and kneeling, a specific thought comes to mind.  Can you guess? …Yes that is it – ‘Will you marry me?’, A marriage proposal! A marriage proposal is usually something to look forward to. The season just makes the gesture all the more magical and memorable. Marriage proposals are seen as the apex of a relationship. Many young ladies of marriageable age, become imparted with thoughts of how they want their proposals to go. In their heads, they have the perfect idea and thoughts. Every detail is well thought out.

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Some imagine being taken to a place of value or vocal point in their relationship, wishing they had no clue about what’s going on, and friends hiding around the corner and if possible family members. Then the spotlight and most beautiful moment, when he’ll get down on one knee, and amidst this, tears of joy will flow down her cheeks as she’ll promptly say yes when he asks her to marry him. The saying yes part might not be prompt, as different ladies react to this in their unique ways. Those who will run around and even forget that need to give a response, those who will say yes amidst tears, the strong ones who are never surprised, and then the ones that are even embarrassed by the gesture.

For some people, especially men, the show is unnecessary and also foreign. Our culture does not make provision for such activities. Many question the act of kneeling and proposing. Can we not have proposals without the man kneeling? Does this prove that he loves and cares more when he kneels Kneeling or not kneeling does not guarantee a happy marriage and for the most part, proposals nowadays have turned into social media parades. Competitions on who got the best and most expensive ring. Whose nails were popping and what the couple were wearing.

You wouldn’t blame social media users for making comments and feeding their eyes. Who doesn’t like scrolling through their phones and seeing beautiful pictures with different poses? If not for anything, for inspiration.

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History of Marriage Proposals

I once heard that “the tradition of a man (or woman) proposing on one knee comes from medieval knights bowing before noblewomen. Upon getting down on one knee, the proposer will then ask their partner for their hand in marriage with the phrase “Will you marry me? With this new information, how many knights do we have in Nigeria? I am just thinking aloud, please don’t come for me.

Regardless, who doesn’t want to be treated like a Princess? A girl also wants to experience that fairytale life. Moreover, we were once colonized by these people so give us our flowers. Exception sometimes breeds disappointment. When the lady anticipates that her proposal will be on bended knee and her male partner doesn’t seem to be interested and proposes in some other way the best word to describe the feeling that follows is HEARTBREAKING.

In light of the moment, I’d like to share with you some funny anonymous proposal stories I came across.

Marriage Proposal One

‘My boyfriend was outside my house, he called me to come out and when I did, he gave me two rings. He asked me to test both and pick the most suitable, which I did. The next thing he said was “ok, it’s fine, next week I will come and see your people”.

Even the lady was shocked. This is a case of being proposed to and not being aware. What do you think? I’d say the man had no time to waste, he saw what he wanted and went for it. You could term it pride but I think it worked for them and that is all that matters.

Marriage Proposal Two

“I woke up one morning and he just called and said I intend to see your family soon to ask for your hand in marriage what do you think? And that was it. I gave my answer and he came.”

This approach is pretty bold and mature too. Asking for her opinion is also a good thing. Wonders upon wonders these men are not knights at all. Typical examples of being themselves and proud to show it. When people think about proposals, they are clouded by fantasies and when these proposals don’t balance up, they bad mouth it.

 What they fail to realize is that in as much as a proposal especially public proposals are made as romantic gestures to make our partners feel loved, they pressure the individual being approached to say yes. If the individual is not ready, he/she thinks about the consequences and the people watching and it can be extremely agonizing for everybody present, if it doesn’t go in the manner in which we expect.

For the ones who need to say no because they are not ready, for the one who feels embarrassed due to personal reasons, and for the man expecting a yes, I wish you all well.