What phase of love are you in – in love? out of love? Needing love? not wanting to love? Whatever applies to you, permit me to say that love is a beautiful thing when it is found at the right moment, in the right place, and with the right person. It is that feeling that cannot be traded for another thing in this world. It sometimes can be seen in the most unexpected places, people, or situations. I am in love with the fact that love is never-ending, pure, and gives a sweet feeling to the soul. This is exactly why I have decided to share this piece of poetry with you so you can understand why you need love and why love needs you.
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A sonnet on true love
True love is a flame that burns so suddenly without extinguishing. True love is a visitor that comes into tthe heart without knocking. Love is a ripple that grows in the heart without ending. Like an immortal, it never dies. like a mortal, it keeps breathing, True love never ever say never true love withstands every circumstance saying it will get better True love stays in every instance and dwells in the heart forever In every heart, true love takes its stance
What Love Did To Me…
My first love? Just let’s say e no go well. And if you are Nigerian, well, then you know when something “no go well,” it went from sweet to shege in an instant.
At first, it was a Nollywood romcom. The early morning calls, the “have you eaten?” text messages, the smile on my face for no reason at all. It seemed spontaneous. My heart was doing backflips. My tummy had daily meetings with butterflies daily. I thought I had gotten to love paradise. But deep inside, something wasn’t right.
You know that quiet voice in your spirit that says, “Something no dey balance?” I chose not to hear it. In Nigeria, we normally romanticize relationships. From high school crushes to college boo drama, we learn to chase the idea of love but never really learn what love is.
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You start dating and suddenly everyone’s calling you “wifey” or “our in-law.” But the thing is, love isn’t always in the open affection or the cute couple pictures we post online — it’s in the personal, quiet moments that nobody sees. And bad luck for me, that is where it all began to break down. The sweet vibe didn’t last long. The “good morning” messages became distant. The greetings turned into altercations. The spontaneous laughter we once shared turned into effort. The facade wore off — just like the makeup at the end of a long day in Lagos sun. What was underneath wasn’t love. It was desperation, insecurity, manipulation of the heart — all masked as romantic advances.
And because I had exposed myself, I was vulnerable.
So the crash was even more painful.
You see, I was ready to love. Truly. I had this need to be loved, seen, understood. But it wasn’t the right person. And sometimes the most difficult thing to realize is that you can be ready, but they’re not the one.
When I tell you it was a disaster, I mean the one that has you listening to break-up songs over and over again, deleting photos, blocking and un-blocking, pleading to God why He placed you in charge of this mission. But through all the pain, I gained something worthwhile: love isn’t about how much you can give. It’s about whom you give it to.
Love is only love if it is reciprocated — if you love and are loved. It must never be like begging. Love does not manipulate, belittle, or drain. Real love increases. It survives, but it does not just survive; it thrives. It tackles the thorns, but it does not perish. In fact, it blooms in spite of the thorns. It is easy — like breathing — and not forced, not coerced, not purchased with material presents or insincere vows.
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So how do you know whether it’s truly love? I wish I could give you a good formula. But here’s one thing I can promise you for sure: when it is love, you will know. You won’t have to make it work. You won’t feel small in it. Love will stretch you, but never snap you. It will push you, but also heal you.
To my Nigerians navigating this thing called love — whether Lagos side-stepping red flags or Abuja sipping wine and waiting for your person to call — let this be true: you are worth a love that is peace, not war. Don’t get into love due to people pressure. Don’t end up in catastrophe relationships due to people talk. Don’t let one heartbreak author your story. Love, the real kind, will come. Maybe not today. Maybe not with the one you’d expect. But when it arrives, it will feel like home — not devastation.Slow down. Heal. Learn. Love yourself first. And when the moment is appropriate, love will come. Not as a storm, but as a rain that nourishes your soul. I would love you to stick around by clicking the link below to join my community!
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Thanks For Letting Love Lead
So, what phase of love are you in – in love? out of love? needing love? not wanting to love? Have you decided to always be in love? A true love is patient, deliberate, and founded upon peace. Love was all that we could say; really, that was the way. There is that time to stop and ponder whether or not true love is worth finding meaning and responsibility; I am waiting for the day you come to tell me the choice you made from your heart and at your principles. Without love to drive those things, the future choices become somewhat easy, and happiness then follows wherever that road leads. Comment freely at the end of my comment section. If you love my blog, appreciate the sharing in your network through the share button. I’m currently expanding my blog and the journey involved means having you onboard. Thank you for being here and I hope you remember me!
